June 18, 2014

hiring demographics

Posted in gender differences, philosophy tagged , , at 5:56 pm by weiszguy

If I ran Google, or Yahoo, or the government, or any other organization, we would hire the very best people we could find. In the engineering department, we would hire the very best engineers available. In accounting, marketing, and web-development, the same.

Race and sex would have nothing to do with the hiring decisions. Why would they? If we had a choice between two applicants, would we really choose the lesser of the two because that applicant came from a preferred demographic?

I don’t know if Google and Yahoo, et al, are actually being run this way. It’s possible they have hidden agendas we know nothing about. But if we assume they hire the best people, regardless of external factors, then why should we be upset about recent news that a majority are white males? They’re not hiring white males, they’re hiring engineers, accountants, and marketers.


If 47% of the U.S. workforce is female, but only 30% of Google’s employees are female, why would Google try to change that? Google isn’t trying to match the demographics of the U.S. workforce, they’re trying to get the best engineers, accountants, and marketers they can, right?

At least, that’s how it would be if I was in charge.


April 25, 2012

men and women

Posted in gender differences, human nature tagged , at 8:54 pm by weiszguy

We need men and women.

Not just in a biological sense. And not just in an inclusive, feel-good, be-at-one-with-humanity sense, either.

The reason we need men and women is because men and women are different. The two sexes have opposite and often complementary strengths and weaknesses. A world where women have no say would have too much of certain characteristics, and not enough of other, necessary, characteristics. The same is true of a world ruled by women.

Here’s what we don’t need. We don’t need men to be more like women. And we don’t need women to be more like men. We need men to be men. And we need women to be women. To tell a man to let his feminine side show is to remove from him the thing that society needs from him. To tell a woman to work on her masculine side is to remove from  her the thing that society needs from her.

That is all.

January 2, 2011

fathers deserve more credit than they get

Posted in gender differences, marriage, parenting tagged , , at 8:16 pm by weiszguy

Fathers deserve more credit than they get.

Fathers are usually raked over the coals for not being better fathers. Fathers are no good at being involved in their children’s lives, no good at probing for deeply held feelings, no good at comforting broken hearts. Fathers are no good at dishes, laundry, and shuttling kids to soccer practice.  In short, fathers are not very good mothers.

Nobody ever mentions the paychecks, or bailing out the basement during a flood, of forbidding the wearing of mini-skirts by daughters. If fact, people usually look down on fathers for being workaholics  and for preventing their offspring from having any fun. Nobody considers that most fathers, at one point in their lives, were 17-year old boys.

Don’t make a father be a mother. Don’t make a father be a teenager. Let a father be a man.

October 2, 2008

I’m sexist

Posted in gender differences tagged at 7:03 pm by weiszguy

Some of what is commonly called sexism is not really sexism at all.  An example of sexism is, “You’re a woman, so you can’t work here.”  I think everyone would agree that exclusion based on gender alone is not valid.  All else being equal, there is no reason why a woman can’t do what a man can.

Here’s an example that is NOT sexism.  Children develop better when their mother is at home full time.  They don’t develop as well with a stay-at-home dad, and they don’t develop as well with two working parents.  This is something else everyone would agree with.  So when the question, “Do you think a woman’s place is in the home?” shows up on a survey, I’ll answer yes every time, and appear sexist.  This isn’t sexism at all.  Call it pragmatism or realism, or even discernment, but it can’t be sexism to simply point out the obvious.

July 18, 2007

new blog template

Posted in blogging, gender differences at 5:51 pm by weiszguy

Yeah, I picked a new template. I hope it’s not too feminine. I like some things about it: block quotes are actually set apart differently in the text, so it looks more like a quote; it is not a full-screen-width layout, which means my posts look longer than they did on the old template; the font is a little bigger; the sidebar widgets are more customizable.

Also, check out “my shared items,” on the right. These are my shared items from Google Reader. “my shared items” can be added to your favorite rss reader, in the usual way.

Hope you like it!

June 18, 2007

video game addiction

Posted in addiction, courage, gender differences, parenting, technology, video games at 9:55 am by weiszguy

We did the nasty.  We pulled the plug on ALL video games in our house.  We did some research and discovered that video games are addictive.  No, I’m serious.  They’re addictive in the physical sense.  Video game playing causes the same chemical reaction in the brain that amphetamines cause.  The brain likes this reaction and soon – very soon – begins craving more of it.  In no time at all the body is physically addicted, and more and more playing time is required to meet the body’s desire.

We dropped this bomb on our kids last night – probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done as a parent.  Our boys (ages 10 and 6) began crying – really crying, not just watery-eyed.  It hit them the hardest because they’re the biggest players in our house.  Our daughter (9), while not crying, got real quiet and started saying things like, “Well, I guess I could start reading more…,” as if reading more was a punishment.  Our youngest daughter (4), has only just begun to play video games and wasn’t really affected by our pronouncement, but she was crying because her brothers were crying.

My hope is to get them through the teen years without developing a physical craving for anything (video games, cigarettes, beer, etc).  Once they have adult brains this will all make sense to them, but right now it’s tough.

May 21, 2007

Not Buying It

Posted in gender differences, money, spending at 1:40 am by weiszguy

So I started Not Buying It: My Year Without Shopping, by Judith Levine.  It was the inspiration for my little experiment, even before I had read it.  It seemed like such an interesting premise that I had to try it out myself.

But now that I’m reading it, I’m a little disappointed.  It’s possible the subject isn’t long enough to fill an entire book.  Or it could be possible that I’m not as interested in the subject matter as I first thought.  It could be that Levine comes at the topic from a female perspective.  But I think it’s more likely Levine simply inhabits a different universe than I.

She has closets full of shoes (so she always has the right pair, whether walking or running, in wet weather or dry).  She has a dozen pairs at her home in Vermont, and twice that many in her apartment in Manhattan.  She eats lemongrass and soy, but not meat.  She looks for new, creative ways to bash Bush.  She has no kids.  If she cut her spending in half, she would still have twice my cost of living.  It’s hard for me to stay focused on her personal struggles with spending when she strays tirelessly into anti-Bush vitriol.  And I can’t help think I’d be reading quite a bit less about sock fashions were this book written by a man.

Even though I only got to March in Levine’s account of her year, and even though the book provided the inspiration for my little experiment, I have to put it down.  I’m not buying it.  And neither should you.

February 20, 2007

Masculine Romances

Posted in gender differences at 4:00 am by weiszguy

Please, before you skip over this post, hear me out.

The appeal of romance novels is largely limited to women, obviously. But I have read one romance novel, and it was pretty good. Pride and Prejudice is a surprisingly good book. It describes a budding romance between an upper-middle class man and woman in regency England. Its one downfall is that it is written by a woman. Therefore the major characters are women, and when ever there is a man in the story, we don’t experience the struggles he faces the way we experience the women’s struggles.

The fact is, I see something of myself in each of the main male characters in P&P. And every time I relate to a situation, I’m left wondering how the character deals with it. I’d really like to know what he’s thinking, so I can compare it to what I actually thought when I was in a similar situation.

Before I lose both my readers, let me point out that I’m not about to get in touch with my feminine side. But any honest man who is dating, or has ever dated, a woman, will tell you that men have a very unique perspective on romance – it’s just very different from women’s perspective. And if the point of reading is to learn something, I’d like to be able to learn something about myself by delving into the brains of characters I identify with.

Is there a man out there who is man enough to write a romance novel about men, where women are the minor characters? Would anybody read it?